Is he giving all the right signs, but not really doing anything about it? Does he flirt with you, stare at you, but hold back from asking you out or telling you that he likes you? As frustrating as the circumstance could seem like, it’s a lot more common than you think! Girls may assume that just batting their eyelids at a guy or smiling at him is enough of a sign for him to approach them. But to a guy, there are a million ways to interpret your display of invitation.
Here are 10 most common reasons why a guy may be holding himself back.
1. He doesn’t know you’re interested
Ladies here’s the thing about us- we think we can read everyone’s mind. But believe it or not, that super-hero power doesn’t exist…and it especially doesn’t exist when it comes to the men in our lives. The bottom line is that men don’t know what you’re thinking. If he hasn’t pursued you yet, maybe it’s time to show a little interest. Don’t be afraid to say hello, start up a conversation, or make some plans.
2. He’s just not that into you
So you went ahead and showed a little love, and still, nothing. It’s time to consider the possibility that maybe he’s just not that into you. I know a lot of women have the tendency to jump to this conclusion immediately, and start getting down on themselves wondering: Am I good enough? Am I pretty enough? Is there something wrong with me? Maybe it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him. If he’s not that into you…then he’s not for you.
3. He’s afraid
Believe it or not girls, some of these eligible bachelors are just as insecure and unsure as you are. Afraid of rejection, of heart break, and of failure- it takes a lot of courage and confidence to go ahead and make a move, and some men aren’t there yet. If you are worried your secret interest might be fearful, the best thing you can do for him is pray. Ask God to give him strength and courage, pray for his heart, soul, mind and strength.
4. He’s working through his own issues
The biggest favor we can do for ourselves as women is to stop blaming his lack of pursuit on ourselves. If he’s not asking you out, there is a good chance it has so much more to do with him, and so very little to do with you. Many guys explain that their failure of pursuing a girl is a reflection of the fact that they are still getting their “stuff” together. Take that as a sign and instead of waiting around obsessing over his next move, use your time to reflect on your personal journey.
5. He’s intimidated by you
So you think you’re a warm and friendly person? Well, think again! Does he look at you or try to catch your eye often? Has he ever tried to talk to you by walking up to you? Perhaps, you see yourself as warm and friendly, but he thinks you’ll swat him away for even trying to talk to you!
6. He’s taken
Yes, he could be dating someone else, or worse, married already! Then why on earth is he staring at you? Well, in all probability, he likes the attention he’s getting back from you. Or perhaps, he’s looking for a fling thing, but just biding his time for the right opportunity to seduce you!
7. He finds you too easy
Guys say they’re put off by a girl who plays hard to get, but at the same time, if you come across as very easy, that’ll give a guy more reasons to walk all over you. If you’re wondering why he hasn’t asked you out, ask yourself if you’re giving into him too easily. At times, a guy may not make the effort to pursue you because he knows you’re very into him already.
8. He’s waiting for the right moment
He’s a softie or a romantic, and as much as he loves you and is crazy about you, he’s just waiting for the right moment to ask you out. But what’s this right moment, you ask? Well, who knows?! To make it easier, just make sure you give him several opportunities and alone time so he can work his courage up and ask you out.
9. Commitment issues
He’s never really been in a serious relationship with any girl, and he just doesn’t see himself getting tied down by a girl anytime soon. He may like you a lot, but his fear of commitment may be forcing him to bottle his feelings for you.
10. He needs time
He could be a really good guy, but you may have come across him at the wrong time. He’s still healing from a past relationship that went sour, or he’s going through some serious issues in life that’s stopping him from committing to you or expressing his love for you because he doesn’t believe he’s ready to get into a new relationship just yet.