We know how it is. You go on a few dates with guys but nothing ever seems to stick. You thought the first date went well, but they never want to see you again. What gives? In this article, Beauty and Tips reveal the top 10 dating mistakes you should avoid making.
We all get a bit reflective after a guy tells us he doesn’t want to see us again. We pick it apart, wondering what we did wrong. We thought it went really well, and we literally can’t understand why we doesn’t want to us again. Or how about the fact that we keep dating losers? For some reason or another, we’re attracted to them like magnets!
Dating is difficult. It’s exhausting! Those who get it right either get lucky – or they’ve learned the mistakes they need to avoid. Knowledge is power. To help you out, let’s take a look at 10 dating mistakes you should avoid making.
Dating mistake 1: Revealing Your Feelings Too Early
When we haven’t dated a guy for a while and all of a sudden someone is showing us some attention, it’s way too easy to get carried away. After just a week, we’re all like: “I miss you so much.”
Only, do you really miss him, or do you just think you do? Worse than that, though, is how a guy responds to such early declarations of feeling. Often, he won’t respond positively, and will think you’re coming on too strong. At which point, he’ll do a runner.
It’s tempting to tell someone we like or miss them as soon as possible. Sometimes, we want to hear them reciprocate. Other times, we reveal our hand just because it feels right. But putting your cards on the table can put him off. Keep them close to your chest for now and wait a while. Play it cool.
Dating mistake 2: Striving For Perfection
Been on a few dates with different guys but decided none of them were right for you? Maybe your inbox is flooded with messages but you ignore 99 out of 100. Why? Perhaps you’re looking for Mr Perfect.
Only, he probably isn’t out there. Secondly, taking a chance on a guy you’d usually pass on could be a life-changer.
Dating mistake 3: Not Asking Questions
Guys are always expected to take the lead when it comes to conversations. But while the guy might seem super adept at talking and an all-round great conversationalist, it doesn’t mean that he’s enjoying this. Ask him questions to show that you’re interested, relieve some conversational pressure from him, and to also keep things moving. If you literally can never think of anything to ask, prepare some questions and topics beforehand.
Dating mistake 4: Checking Your Phone
Guys don’t like dating girls who are glued to their phone. It shows rudeness and suggests you’re not really into him. Moreover, who are you texting? Another date? It’s off-putting and can knock a guy out of his stride. To give this date the best possible chance of succeeding, put your phone down and focus purely on the guy. He’ll really appreciate it.
Dating mistake 5: Sleeping With Him Too Soon
A lot of the time, we go to bed with a guy too soon because:
- a) We really fancy him
- b) We think that’s what he wants
- c) We assume we’ll totally see him again!
However, sleeping with a guy too soon might kill this before it’s even got started. The guy might assume this is all you wanted and move on. And because he hasn’t made an emotional connection with you yet, it’s really easy for him to move on. Even if he cuddled you in the morning and made you breakfast. That doesn’t mean anything. It certainly doesn’t mean he’s connected with you on an emotional level yet.
If you really like a guy and think this could go somewhere, wait a while before sleeping with him.
Dating mistake 6: Assuming He’s Seeing Just You
Easiest way to get disappointed and scupper things? Assume you and him are already exclusive and bingo!
After a few weeks of texting, it’s easy to get a bit giddy and assume/hope that he’s now only texting us. But this might well not be true. Moreover, it needn’t be true. He’s free to text and see who he wants at this point. Refrain from asking too soon if you guys are exclusive, and definitely refrain from getting upset if he tells you that you aren’t.
Dating mistake 7: Getting Into Your Beliefs
It’s a date. It’s meant to be fun, relaxed and easygoing. So do you really want to ruin things by going in too deep with your beliefs and values? Sure, it’s important that long-term partners share our belief systems and values. But woah, steady on there! You’re only dating at this point. It’s best to keep your strong opinions and impassioned beliefs on politics, etc – to yourself. It can kill the mood and might overwhelm him.
Dating mistake 8: Being Needy
We know it’s hard not to be needy when you’ve always been like this. But since guys really don’t find it attractive, it’s important that you work hard to change.
Dating mistake 9: Ignoring The Warning Signs
If you hit the dating scene wearing your rose-tinted glasses, you’ll fail to spot the red flags. And this is a big dating mistake that you need to avoid. Even if he’s hot, don’t ignore the warning signs. If he’s always late to a date, has already cancelled a few times, and seems to be keeping things from you, look beyond his hotness. He will let you down eventually, and it’ll be left to you to pick up the pieces from this one.
Dating mistake 10: Thinking You Can Reform A Bad Boy
Following on from the one above, thinking you can reform a bad boy is another dating mistake you need to avoid. Why are women attracted to bad boys? Many reasons. But bad boys don’t tend to change. If you’ve been single for ages and keep dating bad boys, the two could be related. Just saying.