Don’t let your wedding ruin your relationship

At one point in your life or another I’m sure you’ve heard horror stories about the stress of planning a wedding and perhaps even about the dreaded post honeymoon stage of a relationship. Don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be true for you.

A good, healthy relationship is not something you start together and then sit back and watch it grow on its own. You have to work together as a team to make great things happen. There will always be challenges, obstacles, major and minor hurdles to overcome in any relationship no matter how close you are. This is inevitable. But the only difference is: if you’re going through all this with the right partner for you, these challenges and hurdles in life can be much easier to go through. They could even be exciting!

So this is why I say: Before you can find someone compatible, you must know yourself, and know what works and doesn’t work for you. Know what can bring out the best in you, and what can bring out the worst in you. Once you’re clear on this, then only will you be able to choose the right person for you—someone you look forward to living life with, everyday.

Then, there is the wedding…

At one point in your life or another I’m sure you’ve heard horror stories about the stress of planning a wedding and perhaps even about the dreaded post honeymoon stage of a relationship. Don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be true for you if you make a conscious effort to remember that a relationship is a place you go to give.

So when you find yourself preparing for the “big day” leading to the moment you say I do, remember to keep the wedding planning in perspective. Don’t become overly consumed with how you can make your wedding day “perfect.” Instead, remember to enjoy the process.

Think of ways you can give your partner more attention, and really focus on making them feel special. Eliminate as much stress as you can from the equation. And if the wedding isn’t “perfect,” so what? Isn’t it perfect enough that you’ve found each other and agreed to spend the rest of your lives together?

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