How Opeyemi Adeola escaped five years of domestic violence hell

A mum-of-three who was subjected to five years of hell at the hands of a jealous ex-husband  today told how she thought “dying was the only way out”.

Opeyemi Adeola was repeatedly battered, ordered to remain alone indoors for months on end, and obsessively controlled by former partner Olusegun Oni for half a decade, leaving her terrified to speak out.

The 35-year-old was so fixated on his ex-husband that he accused her of cheating on him with work colleague.

“I sat in the dark in my house as he stood banging constantly on my front door.

“I thought I’d never get away.

“One year, between October and January, I didn’t even get out the door, apart from Christmas Day when my dad came to take me out.

“It was the most horrible thing in the world.

“I was subjected to constant beatings, I blocked his telephone number, but when police came I didn’t think anyone would believe me so I retracted my statements.

“Once he came bursting in the front door and punched me straight in the face – I thought I was going to die then.

“It takes time for you to realise and accept you are in a violent domestic relationship.

“I did love him at one point, he used to be my world, but he would have killed me.

“When he battered me with a laptop, I was left looking like the Elephant Man – I was unrecognisable.”

She said: “I can get on with my life now. I adored him at one point, but I’d encourage any other people in my situation it’ll never change – it’ll get worse and worse.

“Speak out, don’t suffer in silence.

“Find the courage to tell others as there was so much support out there for me when I did it. People were fantastic.”

Opeyemi Adeola said she was often wrongly accused of looking at other men and described the overwhelming sense of relief after Oluwasegun was finally put behind bars for assaults, stalking and arson.

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