According to the laws of nature, guys are supposed to make the first move. It’s common etiquette, right?
These days, though, the onus is more and more on the lady to make the first move. After all, we’re fiercely independent and have our own minds and will, so why shouldn’t we make the first move on a guy who’s a total hunk?
Waiting is all well and good, but it’s way too passive for the 21st century. If you want a guy, you’re going to have to go out there and get him.
The best thing is that men love it when you make the first move! Just in case you’re a little unsure of yourself and need help with your technique, let’s take a look at 10 tips to help you make the first move on a guy.
One of the reasons women shy away from making the first move is because they convince themselves that doing so makes them seem desperate. This is all to do with the idea that a man can have as many girlfriends as he wants, but a girl can’t go through an equal amount of boyfriends. If she does, she’s basically a word that we can’t print here!
Making the move takes a lot of boldness. It takes courage. If you’re going to walk over to him, do it with a brazenness that catches his attention. Ask him if he wants a beer and offer to buy it for him. He’ll love it.
Play The Damsel In Distress
Okay, we know you’re now the bold, confident, independent woman who is ready to make the first move. But this doesn’t mean that you can’t get his attention by creating a scenario.
By putting yourself in a situation where you need his help, you can call him up and he’ll come round to help you out! You could say that you need help with loading some boxes, fixing your car, or mending a leak. He’ll pop by like a true hero, and you’ll be indebted to him. Time for some romance!
Be careful not to say that you need help washing the dishes. That will not impress him.
Flirt With Him
You probably heard in the past that flirting works and you should try it but you might not have been told that flirting really works and you definitely should try it.
Like, right now.
Guys love to flirt. In fact, they probably love to flirt more than we do. The great thing about flirting is that you can do it from a distance; for example, you could send him flirty messages on Facebook or post songs to his wall.
In person, smile when you’re in his company and lightly touch his arm. Don’t be aggressive, but be playful.
Flirting is all well and good, but eventually you do need to be more direct. Guys know when you’re flirting with them, but they don’t always cotton on that you’re really into them. Sometimes they assume that you’re just having a giggle for kicks!
There is nothing wrong with being direct. It saves time and it helps to clear up any misunderstandings. The guy might be sitting at home thinking “She loves me She loves me not,” so let him know your feelings when you make that first move.
Look Him In The Eyes